There have been many opinions of me over the years and most of them have come back to me via a second party.
“My sister really hates you.”
“Who’s your sister?”
“Clarifies situation with a school or social group in common.”
“Nope. Still have no idea. Why does she hate me?”
“You slept with Somebody McVaguelyFamiliar’s boyfriend in high school.”
“You’re going to have to be more specific that that.”
“Oh, him? He had a girlfriend? Pretty sure I didn’t know that.”
“Yeah, well, my sister hates you because of that.”
“Does she hate him because of that?”
“I don’t think she cares about him at all.”
“Exactly. She hates the one person involved that didn’t know he had a girlfriend. Lovely.”
Solidarity is for women who are not me.