“This was not what I signed up for. We were supposed to be partners, equals in all things. We were supposed to build a life together built on mutual care, equitable division of labour and a fabulous sense of kicking ass. I didn’t get any of that. What I got was judged, belittled, gaslighted and infantilized. What I got was less than I was promised. What I got was a metaphoric punch in the face instead of the actual punch that would justify my leaving.”